Today was my first day back lecturing after a long summer break. Even though I have been doing this for over 5 years now, I still get nervous. Before my lecture today to a class of about 150, I had a familiar feeling of anxiety. Luckily the lecture went fine and I felt reassured and confident in myself.
But it hasn’t always been this way.
I started thinking about what’s changed since I first began public speaking, when I started my PhD in 2010, and where I am now.
Occasionally I notice the old thoughts creeping back in…thoughts of inadequacy, feeling like a fraud etc…
The reality is that most of us have some version of the ‘not good enough’ story playing out. But often we think that everyone else has it all together, which can make us feel alone and ashamed.
Yesterday I was listening to a talk by Chris Germer, a self-compassion expert who spoke about, how, at the root of these core wounds, lies a desire to be loved. We all just want to be loved. We all want to be accepted.
When I think about my own relationship with myself, so much has changed since the early years. I no longer beat myself up. I don’t allow myself to get caught in negative loops of self-criticism and shame. Instead, I use the tools of self-compassion to respond to myself in a loving way. It is so much more effective.
Today before my lecture, I placed a hand on my heart and said to myself ‘it’s ok honey, I know that you feel nervous, you are safe, I’m here for you.’ I felt my slightly increased heart rate, and rather than freaking out about having anxiety, I simply breathed into it. Anxiety, my old friend, nice to see you again.
Alongside self-compassion, yoga has helped me to find my own sense of power and self-confidence. I ‘act’ as if I feel confident (even if I feel nervous on the inside). I feel into my belly centre, draw my shoulders back and ground myself firmly through my feet. Doing this sends a message to my brain, telling it that I’m safe.
Research by Amy Cuddy has also shown that through adopting powerful postures it decreases cortisol and increases hormones associated with confidence. I use every trick in the book!
Another thing that helps me is singing and chanting mantras, which I do as often as I can – clearing any blockages in the throat chakra.
One of my favourite phrases (linked to the seventh chakra) is ‘do your best and let go of the rest.’ The art of surrender. Sweet surrender. I find this comforting, to know that no matter what the outcome, I can only do my best. And that’s enough.
When I created the ‘Personal Transformation through the Chakras’ course I wanted to bring together what I had learned from yoga and psychology to help people to create real change in their lives.
I wanted to share the insights from my own personal journey, along with cutting edge tools that I had learned from western and eastern traditions to help people to feel more confident, empowered, connected and compassionate.
I truly believe that when we bring together the mind and the body, we have the power to create much greater shifts than working with just one.
Here is an overview of what we cover in each week:
You can read more about the course here. We begin on Monday 9th October from 6.30-8.30pm in Bournemouth. There is a maximum of 12 people in the group.
Here are some words from previous attendees:
“I loved this course and it has had a huge impact on me. Lauren is an excellent teacher – knowledgeable, wise and skilled. 10/10” (Ginny)
“I have loved this course, it really has been a journey of personal transformation. I have learnt so much about myself and it is just the beginning of an exciting journey.10/10 ” (Annabel)
“I enrolled on this course to enable me to have a clear mind as I approach career crossroads. I left with a real sense of knowing myself, my boundaries and what brings me joy. Thank you for all the inspiration, it will stay with me always. 10/10.” (Tracey)
“An enlightening course, providing a safe, secure, lovely environment to explore myself, my fears, my emotions, hopes & dreams…10/10” (Jane)
If you would like to join please send me your registration form (download here) and I will send you booking info.
*If you have completed the course before and would like to repeat it you will receive a 20% discount.
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Love & light,
(p.s. Here’s that link again…)